The Relativity of Success

Everyone wants to be successful. That is a fact. But what does success mean?

Most people think that success means being rich, famous, and on the top bracket of the job. However, there are also a lot of people who would agree with me that success means being able to achieve your goals – be it monetary or be it love. Confused? Here’s my take

I am a licensed Chemist. Does that mean I am successful? Well, considering that I now work as a copyeditor, I am not successful in being a chemist – but does that mean that I am a failure? Well, a lot of people think so {sigh}. Rewind some two to five years ago…had someone told me then that I will NOT be working as CHEMIST, I’d laugh at their face. Yes, the past me would have concluded that I AM a failure today. So, am I? I don’t think so.

Yes, I may not work in my professional field but I did find a decent work in Dumaguete. Oh, I don’t love the job but it really is decent. Then. I have an online job that gives me the same salary as my real job minus the stress and in a much relaxed time. Yes, no matter what people might say, I am successful. I see my hubby every few days and he goes to work every few days. We have fun. We go swimming. Stuff.

My point here is that I do not have to work in my field to be successful. And yes, if I quit my real job at the end of the year, I’d still consider myself successful. I may not be able to buy a car right now but I’m saving for my dream house πŸ™‚

A girl cousin thinks that I married early (at 24) that’s why I am sadly not successful πŸ˜€ But then what is the RIGHT age for marriage? Is being single a guarantee that I’d be successful? Maybe, but then I’d go back to what success might really mean. Yes, I could still be single and working as top Chemist in some company – like in the cement company that I left – but if my heart wants me to be with Bobby and live a simple life, that is SUCCESS to me. Yes, I am successful πŸ™‚

P.S. According to the PorkChop Duo, Success is relative…More success, more relatives. LMAO

7 Responses

  1. P.S. According to the PorkChop Duo, Success is relative…More success, more relatives. LMAO <<<<Win the lottery and everybody wants to be a relative. LOL.

    The size of your success is measured by the happiness and contentment you feel.

  2. Hello.

    I feel what you feel. I am a registered nurse. I took nursing for the obvious reasons – the promise of a future abroad. It was only later that I figured out how mistaken I was. 😦 Nursing wasn’t for me, it never was and I don’t think it ever will be.

    The problem with it wasnt that I was ‘bad’ at what I was doing, I was a perfectly adequate nursing student and later on as a nurse. I was able to roll with the punches and take whatever task was given to me, the problem was, I wasn’t happy.

    I remember the day that I submitted by application for training at the local hospital – I had every confidence I was getting in (and I did), but, that day as I walked through the hospital halls, I got so anxious that I was breathing so hard, my skin felt clammy and I thought my heart was going to leap out of my chest. It was a horrible feeling and that moment I thought to myself: “WHAT HAVE I GOTTEN MYSELF INTO???” Still, I went through with the training and I was again – a perfectly adequate ICU trainee. I did all that was expected of me and sometimes more. After the training, however, I couldn’t for the life of me bring myself to hand in my resume. My training batch mates did and they’re there now living the life society dictates that I should be too.

    That was almost 3 years ago.

    Today, I work as a content writer. I guess I’ve always loved English and I guess I should have taken a course more in relation to that than nursing was – but that’s in the past. I can’t change the 4 years of perfectly adequate performance in college (I say adequate because I didn’t excel nor did I fail – there was just no motivation for excellence – I longed to study the arts at this period of my life – but, it never came to be).

    I earn as much, if not more, than what my fellow nurses do in the local hospitals, but does not make me successful in their eyes. No, but, I don’t hate them for it. I guess if I was in their shoes, I be thinking the same thing about someone like me.

    I still feel guilty – almost every other month I get a bout of guilt that drives me to brush up my nursing resume and attempt to submit it to hospitals. Still I get the cold sweats and my heart feels like it wants to beat out of my rib cage.

    The sad thing is, no matter how successful I get as a content writer, I will keep feeling guilty. Guilty because I feel I should be practicing nursing. It’s also difficult to feel successful when no one else thinks you are. A few of my friends think my current job is fine, but there are those who will never consider it as a real job.

    Anyway. πŸ™‚ I apologize for ranting. Success I guess is a matter of opinion. I hope I get to a point in my life when the guilt is gone. I wish you all the best with your choices too.

    I apologize for the long comment again. 😦 πŸ™‚ Moderate it as you please. πŸ™‚



  3. to Maree: Yup, that is true. I wish I’d win the lottery…I don’t care if I get a thousand new relatives πŸ™‚ πŸ˜€

    to Cecily: Hey, you are entitled to rant about it here πŸ™‚ I am really glad that you shared your thoughts with my blog. Yes, we do not have to be ashamed for doing something that was not our field of profession πŸ™‚ Have confidence in yourself, girl πŸ™‚ We don’t have to feel guilty because we are happy with our choices.

  4. unfortunately, it’s easier to say “i’m successful” than being actually successful.
    and don’t believe the crap that it’s all in the mind. it is NOT in the mind! no matter how convinced one is of being successful does not make it so.

    although abraham lincoln said that “your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing”, mere thought is NOT enough to actually produce success.

    people might not agree with me, especially those who write self-help books with titles such as “Think and Grow Rich” or “The Magic of Believing”. but it’s really a simple matter to prove that success depends on OTHER people.

    here’s the proof:
    “success” is a social concept. in other words, it is a concept that exist due to and in the presence of society. the concept of success is meaningless among animals, or among individuals stranded on an island, or those who are living solitary lives.
    “success” needs society to have meaning, and thus needs the affirmation of OTHER people. that is, other people or society at large must validate it in order for it to exist.

    in simple words, other people must think you are successful in order for you to be actually successful.
    one’s opinion, or their mother’s opinion, doesn’t really count.

  5. tama itong taong ito!!
    pag successful kagaya ko, everybody in the world knows that success comes from the heart and trying your best to succeed, that’s why i always succeed in my endevors.
    for me, lagi kong iniisip na lahat na ito ay alay ko for our countrymen and for the whole world, so i try my best everytime.

  6. Great post, but its a bit long and most people like short and sweet posts!

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